There is a story in the Old Testament that has an incredible lesson for living for us. It’s the story of the 12 spies that went to spy out the land that God had promised to give to the Israelites. When they came back from checking out the land, 10 of them brought a bad report while two of them, Joshua and Caleb, brought back a good report. The 10 who had the bad report complained that the people of that land were too powerful and that there were even giants there. Let’s take a look at what they saw from their vantage point:
Numbers 13:31-33 (NKJV) But the men who had gone up with him said, “We are not able to go up against the people, for they are stronger than we.” And they gave the children of Israel a bad report of the land which they had spied out, saying, “The land through which we have gone as spies is a land that devours its inhabitants, and all the people whom we saw in it are men of great stature. There we saw the giants (the descendants of Anak came from the giants); and we were like grasshoppers in our own sight, and so we were in their sight.”
While they saw themselves as grasshoppers, Caleb had a different point of view about this. Let’s take a look at how he saw things:
Numbers 14:6-9 (NKJV) But Joshua the son of Nun and Caleb the son of Jephunneh, who were among those who had spied out the land, tore their clothes; and they spoke to all the congregation of the children of Israel, saying:”The land we passed through to spy out is an exceedingly good land. If the LORD delights in us, then He will bring us into this land and give it to us,’a land which flows with milk and honey.’ Only do not rebel against the LORD, nor fear the people of the land, for they are our bread; their protection has departed from them, and the LORD is with us. Do not fear them.”
While the 10 spies saw an impossible task in front of them and saw themselves as small and insignificant, Caleb was looking at the giants as food. He saw them as bread to eat. These are two drastically different opinions about some very real things. Joshua and Caleb’s trust in God and in what He had said (God had told the Israelites that He was giving them the land) lead them to look at something that was a very real threat as bread that was going to nourish them.
Sooner rather than later, you figure out that life comes fast and hard at you and that there are some very real threats that we will have to face. How we face those threats is the difference between victory and defeat. When you get married, the stakes are a lot higher and the risk of loss is even greater. You will face “giants” such as conflict, pain, problems, trouble, etc. and if you are not ready or prepared to deal with these giants, the fear of them will swallow up you and your marriage. But if you get the right perspective, then those same trials and tribulations can become bread for you and nourish you and nourish your relationship as husband and wife.
When you face trials and difficulties together as a couple and you join together in asking God for help, those very trials and difficulties will make you and your relationship stronger. Listen to how God’s Word puts it:
James 1:2-4 (NIV) Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds , because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
These hard and difficult times actually benefit you to the point where you don’t lack for anything. Our problem is that we look at the problems, get anxious and then turn on each other instead of turning to God. When you turn to God and believe what He has promised us, then those “giants” that come along in life to intimidate you and make you feel like running will become nourishment to you as you trust God to help you to overcome them. Get in on God’s recipe for bread. It not only tastes good, but it will unite you and your spouse not only making you stronger, but making you the conquerors that God designed you to be.
Romans 8:37 (NIV) No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.